Be an Encourager

How do you feel when someone compliments you?

Pretty good, right?

How do you feel when someone is excited and happy to be around you and to share experiences with you?

Pretty good, right?

What if we all focused on doing those things more often? What do you think would happen?


Could it be that we might possibly have more happy, giving, and kind people all around? Yes!


Encouraging others takes very little effort but can mean the world to that person. Raise people up! Celebrate them! Then watch them pay it forward.

It's a simple concept and yet rarely done! It's so easy to do and yet we rarely make the effort to make it happen. Never having time is always our excuse, but really it's a lack of desire to put in the effort. There are a ton of ways we can do something that can really impact someone else's life that takes very little time AND very little effort.

* Give someone a compliment (and mean it) - it has to be authentic and genuine or it isn't hard for them to get suspicious of your intent. If you like someone's hair cut/color/style, tell them! If you like their outfit, tell them! If you like their earrings, tell them!

* If someone in line at a store is short offer to chip in the dollar or change if you have it. We have all been there at some point.

*Hold a door or elevator for someone; it is common courtesy to do so for each other and takes little to no effort.

*Cook a special dinner for your family and tell them it's because you love them. My Mom used to set up a picnic in our living room and we'd eat off of her good china and drink out of the crystal glasses. As kids, my brother and I absolutely loved it and we didn't care what was on the menu, but to pull out the "special" dishes made us feel special. There's nothing like eating a hotdog off of a china plate and sipping Kool-aid out of crystal wine glasses!

*Write a letter or a card to a friend and mail it. We rarely use snail mail for anything fun and exciting anymore and it's an amazing surprise when we sort through the mail to find something that isn't a flyer or a bill.

*Pick up the phone and call someone. There is always someone in your life you keep meaning to call and chat with, perhaps for an overdue catch-up. Pick up that phone and do it now. Stop putting it off. The more you procrastinate, the more time flies, and then the more uncomfortable it can feel as the gap gets larger. Everyone loves to know that someone is thinking about them.

*If you can't pick up the phone, then send a text. It takes no time at all but lets someone know that you're thinking about them and can make all the difference in the world to that person.

*When getting your morning coffee at a drive-thru, pay for the car behind you! I guarantee it will totally make their day and most likely will pay it forward to someone else. I have had this happen to me and it always seems to be on days where I have needed that bit of kindness the most. It's a small gesture, it's anonymous and it is guaranteed to make the recipient smile.

*Complement the person working at the drive-thru or the server where you're grabbing lunch. Tips are great so be sure to tip your servers well, but complement them too. Being a server/bartender or in the service industry, in general, can be a thankless and soul-sucking job. Making someone smile may just make that day a little less mundane and a little more exciting.

*Post on social media about someone you care about and express your love and gratitude for all to know. I do this frequently. It's easy and can hit the heartstrings. It's all about creating the warm-fuzzies.

*Create a Secret Fairy Basket and stealthily deliver it unseen to someone in your neighborhood. Make a small basket of goodies. Dollar stores make this easy and inexpensive. Add a note that simply tells them to enjoy and from their Secret Fairy.

The possibilities are endless! Use your imagination and have fun.

We all wear an invisible sign that says "Make Me Feel Special"! Imagine what the world would look like if we all devoted a little time every day to acknowledge someone's invisible sign! So, what are you going to do about that today?

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