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This made me laugh, but makes a very valid point!


Who we connect with can have a direct correlation to our successes in life, in business, and in relationships. Have you ever taken stock of who is in your circle?


Sometimes we have to look through the people in our lives and make tough decisions as to who we need to distance ourselves from for the betterment of our lives. It's not that we don't care about these people and in some cases love them, but they just aren't operating at the same level of consciousness and can be holding you back from achieving your goals and dreams.


Sadly, this can also mean distancing yourself from family as well. I have first-hand experience with this. I needed to break the abusive chains that were binding me, and although some choices came easier than others or were made for me, it truly ended up being a blessing. I know that sounds weird and yes, I had to grieve the loss of those relationships particularly when one was my maternal grandmother and the other was my father.


We can be so engrossed in our relationships and not even realize the negative effects they are having in our lives. We get caught up in these toxic relationships out of loyalty or because we share DNA, but that doesn't make the relationship good for us or necessary. It is when we can recognize these chains of abuse and these patterns of disfunction that we can break free and stop the cycles from continuing on in our future and in future generations.


I'm not saying this is easy or should be a decision to take lightly. All relationships can be challenging and it doesn't mean that at the first sign of difficulty we should cut them out of our lives. What we do need to do is to keep stepping back and assessing how that relationship is affecting our everyday lives and whether it is in our best interest in remaining mentally, emotionally, or physically healthy to stay in the relationship.


In ending my relationships with many family members on both sides of my family which came from some pretty traumatic experiences, I was finally able to heal. I was finally able to see the cycles of abuse and complete and utter dysfunction and heal from these wounds, understand them, and forgive those involved. I still love them; they are family. However, I ask myself, would I be friends with them if they weren't family and the answer is a resounding NO. So, I wish them well, I send them love and light and thank them for all they brought to my life, the good and the bad as both have helped me evolve into who I am now.


What difficult decisions have you had to make in this area of your life?


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